How To Create A Tinder Bio

How to Write Your Tinder Bio (The Ultimate Guide)

Struggling to write your Tinder bio?

Have no idea how to make your profile stand out?

A great written bio is the secret ingredient in having women message you first.

Which is deeply important because the data shows:

If a woman messages you first, you have a 150% higher chance of having a date.

"If a woman messages you first, you have a 150% higher chance of having a date."

We'll show you real examples of the best, and the worst, Tinder bios.

You'll know what to avoid, and more importantly, what to emulate.

By the end of this bio you'll have a new and effective Bio.

One that will get you more matches, and more women messaging you first.

In fact, here's a comment from a reader made earlier today:

What's in a Tinder Bio?

While your Tinder bio isn't the most important aspect of your profile.

Our favorite 2016 study shows that it's worth paying attention to.

Men receive over 4x as many matches from women when they provide a bio.

Versus when they leave their bio blank.

And more importantly women are more inclined to message first.

But it gets even better…

If a woman messages first there's a 2.5X greater chance she'll get a response to her first message.

Then if the man initiated the conversation.

Besides just the obvious, a good profile has other benefits…

It gives her more information on you — being a real person.
On the date you'll have more to talk about, as she'll know more about you.
Ideally, she'll message you first.

In addition this article, you can also take a peek at our Tinder 10X profile course.

Our course will bring you through not just your bio

But also photos 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, swiping strategy, and more.

Get Her to Message You First

How do you know if you've got a great Tinder bio?

Women will message you first.

That happens because you've managed to get them curious.

And excited enough that they just need to reach out.

If you're wondering if that's really possible… yes.

And it's more common than you think.

In the below example you'll see an excerpt from my OkCupid profile.

Zoe liked my directness and sense of humor enough that she messaged me first about it.

An OkCupid Bio so good that Women Message First

The Secret to Getting Her to Message You First

As mentioned, the best bios get women to message you first.

The real secret here is not to use copy pasted lines.

Because the reality is - she's seen it before.

And if she's seen it, she's not going to message you.

And probably not even respond to your opening message.

Your bio also provides a crucial first taste of your personality and a jumping off point for potential conversation.

So you want it to be tailored to you.

After reading you'll know how to put together a strong bio.

That'll result in more matches, more messages, and more Tinder dates or hookups.

Our Complete Tinder Bio Infographic

If you want to find out the 3 secret ingredients for a winning Tinder bio…

You're going to love this infographic.

After you check it out, we'll dive in with more real examples.

The Best Tinder Bios are Concise.

Your Tinder bio is no place to tell your life's story.

No one's going to read your novel before deciding to like or message you.

Every girl on Tinder has a ton of options, so the ideal Tinder bio is at most 3 or 4 sentences.

This is enough to give her a taste of who you are without boring her to death.

With that said, this doesn't hold true with every dating app.

OkCupid, for example, you'll want a longer bio.

But here's two examples of a Tinder bio, one a success and the other a failure.

The Worst Bio

The Best Bio

You can see exactly what I mean in these two bios.

The Tinder bio on the right is boring just to look at, while the bio on the left is light and fun.

And… as you'd expect the short bio will get more results.

Say more, with less.

He's also doing a decent job of showing his sense of humor, which follows our next piece of advice:

Show, Don't Tell.

Almost every Tinder bio I've ever seen could benefit from this one simple creative writing axiom: show, don't tell.

Meaning: rather than telling someone what your interests are, you should use your bio to show who you are.

This is a classic mistake people make when constructing their Tinder Profile, which I covered in my Tinder Bio Mistakes article here.

Still don't get it? Here…

Let's say that you're really into Chinese tea and dad humor.

Rather than saying "I'm really into Chinese tea and dad humor," (which is telling), you can show this by saying something like, "If you're into Chinese Tea, we might really get oolong."

You're showing it, not literally telling it.

Too cheesy?

Let's say you're a world traveler.

Don't tell her, "I love to travel."

Instead, show her, by saying something like "I'm equally comfortable with a PBR at a dive or snake wine in Hanoi."

Here's the reason why this is important: imagine meeting a person and right off they bat they tell you how smart they are.

They might actually be smart, but probably not.

After all, they wouldn't need to tell you that, you'd learn it by listening to them saying smart things.

Here are a couple real bios that mention travel.

Showing.

Telling.

When you see showing, not telling in a real profile you can see why it's important.

Without it, your profile is boring at best.

Self centered at worst.

Somewhere in the overly long bio on the left he tells us, "I've been around the world and back, ask me about it."

But really, who is going to ask him about it?

Not an attractive girl.

Meanwhile the right bio shows this by saying "coolest thing I have ever done: meditate with monks in the mountains of Chiang Mai."

That left bio also blandly tells us that he "lives for live music."

How boring is that?

What if he tried, "my ears are perpetually ringing from last night's show," instead.

Here's another example:

By saying, "broken my nose, twice, in the pit," this bio shows us not only that he likes live music, but that he specifically likes heavy music.

And even further that he's not afraid to get down and dirty in a mosh pit.

When you show, instead of telling, you can communicate much more information in a much more succinct way.

This bio also demonstrates the value of following our last piece of advice….

Which we'll get to after the resource below.

I really want to stress how absolutely important showing, not telling is.

If you can master this, you will get women messaging you first on Tinder.

Especially if paired with great Tinder photos.

And having a great Elo score that comes from using the right swiping profile.

All of this is why we created Tinder 10X, our full Tinder Profile making course.

You can learn more details below.

Take Risks with Your Bio.

If you just follow the advice above, you'll already be doing a better job than most men, but if you really want to stand out, take a risk in your bio.

The guy above takes a risk by jokingly calling himself "a Grammy award winning Karaoke artist," as well as by making a specific reference to mosh pits.

This bio takes a huge risk by being incredibly sarcastic throughout….

Describing working out as "picking up heavy things and putting them down repeatedly."
Boxing as "getting punched in the face competitively."
And claiming that he's 4'7" and has had 13 divorces and 94 kids.

When you take a risk, some girls won't get the joke or the reference.

But the return is worth it.

Your bio will stand out amidst everyone else's horribly monotonous bios.

… And when girls do get what you're doing, they'll be way more engaged with you right off the bat.

Putting it all Together.

At this point, we have 3 elements of an effective online dating bio.

Being concise.
Showing, not telling.
Taking risks.

But, just like a song, all the instruments need to work together.

Not just sound good independently from each-other.

The most successful bios will work cohesively together.

This isn't just a vague statement, either…

If you come off as sarcastic, dark, and masculine in your bio but you come off as a "nice guy" in your photos — then you have a problem.

Alternatively, if your profile seems to hint for relationships, but your photos are more "one night stand" vibe-y, than you're still in trouble.

You need to make sure that all the elements of your profile work together.

What to Include in a Tinder Bio Checklist

Let's distill everything down into a quick checklist of everything.

That way you can be sure you have everything in your profile that you need.

#1 Keep it less than 80 Words

My personal bio is about 85 words long.

And frankly… that's too much.

The reason mine is longer is because I've highly optimized it.

It includes funny stories.

Interesting tid-bits about me.

And "hooks" to get her curios to message me first.

When you're starting, it's better to have less than more.

Try to aim for less than 80 words.

Maybe even 40 if you're just starting out.

#2 Share 1-3 Mini-Stories

The best way to show your personality is to give an example of it.

Rather than say you like to travel…

Instead give an example of a time you traveled.

Ideally one where something funny, crazy, or bizarre happened.

You can do that in less than 1 sentences with a "mini story."

For example, here are 3 Mini-Stories I've used on my profile:

Lost under Paradise Island. Woke up with bed full of Tortilla Chips. Unexplained.
Got Skin Exfoliation in 🇨🇳: was men in 1950's navy sailors outfit w/ Brilopad.
Took portrait inside home of ex-criminal and left my bag. Came back later to get it and held up at gunpoint by his Mafia friend.

Notice that all of these feel like quick descriptions of a sitcom episode.

That's exactly what you want!

#3 Reference the First Date

There's a lot of Tinder advice online…

But I've never across this piece.

Which is too bad… because every guy should be doing this on his Tinder profile.

You want to reference your first date in your bio.

So that way she's already thinking about meeting up with you.

You can do this in a sarcastic or fun way.

Just like I did.

On my profile I reference her buying me a drink on our first date.

Here's the line I use:

"Just finished my masters degree. Beer needed. Open tab on you to celebrate?"

Not only does this give her a better idea of what is happening in my life (graduating grad-school.)

It also shows her my sarcastic sense of humor.

This is so much more powerful than just saying "I have a sarcastic sense of humor."

What Makes a Tinder Bio Great

You'll notice that all of the checklist about boil down to a few simple concepts.

All concepts we went over in this comprehensive Tinder bio guide.

Things like:

Taking Risk.
Showing, not telling.
Being concise.

The best profiles I've seen do all three of these things at the same time.

The "mini-story", for example, will be risky, concise, and funny.

Marc from Zirby's Tinder Bio

If your curious what my Tinder bio is…

Here you go.

Keep in mind that this is just my current profile.

I am constantly testing new "mini-stories."

New Techniques.

New jokes.

Which leads me to…

Why Testing is so Important

It's not enough to write your bio once and be done with it.

You constantly want to test ways to make it better.

But that leads to a natural question:

How do you know if your bio is getting better or worse?

That's actually pretty simple.

Your matches will tell you.

If there is something in your bio that is really funny or exciting…

Your match is going to reference it in your profile.

This Works on All Online Dating Apps

Before you ask: yes.

This works on all Online Dating apps.

Getting an amazing OkCupid profile follow all the same rules as Tinder.

The only difference is some dating apps - like Coffee Meets Bagel or OkCupid require longer profiles.

So maybe 1000 words instead of 500.

But the content stays the same.

Let me show you an example from my OkCupid bio.

And remember… like we mentioned at the start of the article…

If a woman messages you first, you have a 150% higher chance to end up on a date.

So you have every reason in the world to make a profile so awesome…

That she messages you first.

If your profile stands out…

She will message you.

You don't have to stress out over your first message.

Especially if she asks questions.

And best yet…

You can just ask her out.

What makes this so crazy is it's not even about your photos.

Sure, you want to have good photos.

But these messages are the result of an amazing written bio.

By the way, here's an article that covers your Tinder photos.

It will cover everything you need to know to knock it out of the park.

I think you get the point…

Follow this guide like the Gospel.

It will serve you well.

How to Build Your Tinder Bio.

Now it's your turn, here's a challenge to get you started:

I want you to choose 3 activities or hobbies that you would list on your bio (like... cooking, adventure, star-gazing.)

Then, construct 3 versions of showing, not telling using everything you learned here.

You're welcome to come post your assignment in our private Facebook group.

Most importantly, after you take a crack at that, you can look in to our full Tinder profile making course.

It'll give you more tips and hints with writing your Tinder bio.

As well as cover your other photos, strategy, and most importantly: how to put everything together in a cohesive way.

Don't Forget Your Photos

As I've mentioned before, your bio is important but not as important to your photos.

The issue with fixing your photos is that it takes a lot of time and effort to get new images…

Luckily, you don't have to.

You can take your pre-existing photos and edit them to make them more attractive to women.

Assuming you have:

A heavy background in professional photography (I do.)
Expensive editing tools like Adobe Photoshop (I do.)
Clear knowledge from testing thousands of images on dating apps to know when editing techniques work rather than hurt (I do.)

If you're not in the above camp — don't worry.

That's why I put together this 100% free to watch video tutorial called the "Tinder Photo Editing Trick" to see my real technique to edit photos for Tinder.

Where you'll be able to edit your photos quickly, using just your phone.

Click "watch now" below to get started.

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Marc Falzon

Marc is the founder of Zirby: the Tinder advice blog with millions of readers a year. Uncover your inner confidence and experience a fulfilling dating life. Follow Marc on YouTube or Instagram.

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